{"id":2677,"date":"2025-06-18T10:04:22","date_gmt":"2025-06-18T10:04:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/riine.ee\/?p=2677"},"modified":"2025-06-18T10:20:12","modified_gmt":"2025-06-18T10:20:12","slug":"armastus-armastab-korda-sundimata-lapsed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/riine.ee\/en\/suhted-lastega\/armastus-armastab-korda-sundimata-lapsed\/","title":{"rendered":"Armastus armastab korda: s\u00fcndimata lapsed"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>S\u00fcsteemse t\u00f6\u00f6 \u00fcks olulisemaid aluseid \u00fctleb: <em>igas peres\u00fcsteemis on k\u00f5igil \u00f5igus kuuluda. Ka neil, kes ei saanud s\u00fcndida.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>S\u00fcndimata lapsed kuuluvad peres\u00fcsteemi samamoodi nagu need, kes elavad f\u00fc\u00fcsilises maailmas. Olgu p\u00f5hjuseks raseduse katkemine, meditsiiniline sekkumine, isiklik otsus v\u00f5i m\u00f5ni muu asjaolu. Elu, mis oli alguse saanud, kuulub meie loo juurde. Ka temal on oma koht.<\/p>\n<p>Oluline on iga keharakuga \u00e4ra tunda need tunded, mis on seotud sellega, miks laps ei saanud tulla siia maailma ja elada elu, mis oli juba tekkinud. Tuleb anda talle koht oma s\u00fcdames. Mitte s\u00fc\u00fcst v\u00f5i kahetsusest, vaid armastusest ja austusest. Sest just see on armastuse kord.<\/p>\n<p>Sageli ei ole me teadlikud, milline m\u00f5ju v\u00f5ib olla s\u00fcndimata lastel meie kehale, tunnetele v\u00f5i suhetele. S\u00fcsteemne t\u00f6\u00f6 toob n\u00e4htavale n\u00e4htamatu. Sageli ilmneb see seletamatute tunnete kaudu: s\u00fc\u00fc, kurbus, \u00e4revus\u2026 tunne, et \u201cmidagi on valesti\u201d. M\u00f5nikord ka kehaliste s\u00fcmptomitena, millele meditsiin ei leia seletust.<\/p>\n<p>See ei ole teema, mida saab m\u00f5istusega \u201c\u00e4ra lahendada\u201d. See on kehatasandi kogemus. Kui lubame endal leinata, kuulata ja tunda; kui lubame sellel elul olla n\u00e4htav ja anname talle koha oma s\u00fcdames, siis saame l\u00f5puks rahus lahti lasta.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<h4>Peres\u00fcsteem p\u00fc\u00fcdleb alati tasakaalu poole<\/h4>\n<p>Kui me ei vaata s\u00fcndimata laste poole ega anna neile kohta s\u00fcdames, siis s\u00fcsteem t\u00f6\u00f6tab edasi, kuid teisel viisil. Sageli hakkavad seda koormat kandma j\u00e4rgmised p\u00f5lved. Nad v\u00f5ivad alateadlikult tajuda kahjutunnet v\u00f5i kurbust millegi p\u00e4rast, mida nad ei suuda s\u00f5nadesse panna. Nad v\u00f5ivad hakata kandma leina, mis tegelikult ei kuulu neile. Armastusest, lojaalsusest, teadmatusest.<\/p>\n<p>Kuid see ei ole nende kanda.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00fcndimata laps kuulub isa ja ema juurde. Nende vastutus on leinata. Leinata seda elu, mis j\u00e4i pooleli. Kui anname s\u00fcndimata lastele koha s\u00fcdames ja peres\u00fcsteemis, saab s\u00fcsteem rahuneda. Alles siis saavad ka s\u00fcndinud lapsed vabalt hingata, kasvada ja elada oma elu \u2013 ilma et nad peaksid kandma kellegi teise lugu, mis v\u00f5ib olla nende jaoks liiga raske.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Armastus vajab korda, et see saaks voolata.<\/p>\n<p>T\u00e4na, siin ja praegu.<\/p>\n<p>Meie endi ja meie j\u00e4reltulevate p\u00f5lvede \u00f5itsenguks.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Riine<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>S\u00fcsteemse t\u00f6\u00f6 \u00fcks olulisemaid aluseid \u00fctleb: igas peres\u00fcsteemis on k\u00f5igil \u00f5igus kuuluda. 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